These words came from the book “A
Grief Observed” by C.S. Lewis and it pierced directly into my heart. See I thought we had more time. We were planning on taking a trip to London
in December. We wanted to explore more
things now that we settled in our dream city.
I thought there would be more laughs, more disagreements, more memories,
and even more love. Yet on June 14,
2020, that all felt like it got cut off.
It feels like a part of me has died with my husband.
So here I am at the age of 48
trying to adapt to this new life called widow.
It’s in a sense a journey of alone into the alone. Everyone can have sympathy which is greatly
appreciated, but no one really understands the pain of this besides a fellow
widower. Some try to compare it like a
divorce. Yet a divorce is a choice, becoming
a widower is basically decided for you.
You don’t have a choice in this new role. You basically have to sink or swim in it.
As I face the alone into the alone,
I can yet see the beauty in the ashes that God always bring. I realize there was a point where Jesus had
to enter the alone into the alone when he had to face Calvary. He
experience God having to turn his back on him due to our sins laid on him. He knows this type of pain. So for those of us who maybe entering an
alone into the alone moment, remember we have the YET GOD who will never leave
us nor forsake us!
It is not easy for a
widower. I always covered them in my
prayers, but now I am one who needs the covering myself. Nevertheless there is a strength and love
that can only be filled by Abba Father that makes this difficult journey
beautiful. Not everyone gets to
experience such a love in a marriage. So
I’m grateful for my spouse loving me the way God loves me, the in spite of
love. I’m grateful for the wonderful memories we shared and some obstacles that Lord got us through. So I say to fellow widowers, especially those that are new to this club as
myself, be encouraged to know that there are yet beauty in the ashes that only
our God can bring!