Monday, November 19, 2012

The All Men Are Dogs Syndrome


How many times have us women said this?  I know at one time I was the president of this statement.  Yet are men REALLY dogs?

Hmmmm…let’s look at this a little further.

Some men have opened their heart to a woman and as a result, that woman took advantage of it. Having a feeling of vulnerability from that, that same men wants to protect his heart.  So his actions makes him looks like a slut, when really he is trying to stay numb for that experience.

Another scenario is some men may just fear the word commitment.  They may even tell you this from the beginning, but we as women think we’re going to change them. Yet what made him like that?  Could it of been his parents’ divorce or being raised by a single mother?  If a man doesn’t want to commit and you do, um, move on.  Save yourself the emotion and time!

 How about that guy that is sweet and single.  He just hasn’t found that person he feels is the one for him.  Yet some women may take it as if he’s so good, why is he still single?  Then they find themselves looking for him to be that “dog”. 

Truth…

When women are saying “all men are dogs”, what they are really saying is I’ve been hurt and I want to be numb from it.  This is away to protect our hearts.  Yet ladies, it goes even further.  Believe it or not, men can hurt too.  They can be doing the same thing we are doing, protecting.  However, they express it different then we do. 
So instead of putting past relationship experiences on the next on, let us as men and women take time out to heal, learn, and then move on.  Ladies, let us pray for our brothers to be the best that God met for them to be!  Let us heal from this syndrome and have better relationships as a result.

Stay encouraged!

PS:  special shout out to @toddalexander for inspiring this post.

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