There you are minding your own
business when you look up and see a tall, caramel skin, nice brown eyes and a
heck of a smile kind of guy. You make
eye contact. He starts to approach
you. You feel chills as he takes each
step towards you. Then within a blink of
an eye, you give him your number.
There’s conversations that leads
to dates. There’s dates that leads to
laughs. There are laughs that can lead
to memories. You even say to yourself
could he be the one? You start picturing
the ring, the dress, and the day of the wedding. Yet you can’t help but notice things have
changed. The texts are less. The calls are few. The time spent is now
short. You find yourself giving your
gift of time only for it not to be returned back to you. He says he loves you, but. It’s the “but” that now has you feeling
insecure, being depressed, and even at times feeling lonely. That good God looking man has now shattered
your heart and left you empty. So you
leave right? No, we still hold on.
How many of us women do
this? We are experiencing a bad
relationship, but we hold on. Hold on to
the thought of I can help change him.
Hold on to the thought of but he’s so fine. Hold on to the thought of it’s better than
being alone. Notice how everything we do starts with a thought!
This is a root called rejection
and under it is a spirit of insecurity, sex for love, denial, loneliness, and
low self-worth (Cindy Trimm, Rules of Engagement, p236-240).
Our Avi, Father has made women
beautiful, intelligent, and unique. Our
Avi, Father did not make us to feel belittled, used, or even to settle. If a man can’t appreciate your worth, he is
simply not worth your time! I know this
issue too well, as I spent two years purposely alone to seek God for deliverance,
as low self-esteem led me to think I didn’t have a life unless I had a
man. I spent that time repenting,
intense honest prayers, fasting, and reading God’s word. I went to the movies by myself. I went to eat out by myself. I went to
beaches and parks by myself. I spent
time with me and God! Was it depressing
at first to do, you betcha. Was it worth
it at the end, you betcha. Thank God for
Yahweh Mephalti, the Lord my deliver! I
know my worth!
Even Song of Solomon 4:7 states:
You are all fair (beautiful), my love; there is no spot in you.
So I leave you with this…he is
fine, but is he really worth your time!
Be Encouraged.
