What it means to be His Rib....

The sun is shining into your room, as you wake up and stare at your gorgeous wedding gown that is hanging on your door.  Your make-up is flawless. You look like a princess in your gown. Your ring sparkles in the light. The reception is just right.  It’s your day and it was perfect. But what about the next day…when the thrill of the wedding day is over, when all eyes are no longer on you, and the word I becomes us? 

Ephesians 5:31

For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

Ephesians 5:22

Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.

Proverbs 12:4

An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who brings shame is like rottenness in his bones.

When I first got married, I was only thinking about the romance. I didn’t even think I needed to pray over the marriage. Yet as I got older, I realized not only do I have to pray, but also marriage can be a representation of God’s love.  Here are some of the things I find doing as a wife:

·         Unconditional love:   We all make mistakes from time to time. So I am to love my mate when he is looking hot as well as loving him when he is making me want to ask why I get married.  This can also include forgiveness.

 

·         Service:  Yes, we are to be his help mate.  Even on the days when you had a good day at work and feeling silly.  Yet he comes home upset. You can’t be selfish. You have to cater to his needs.  Knowing when he needs that back rub or encouragement or prudence. We have to serve our husbands. This includes wisdom.

 

 

·         Prayer warriors:  Yes, we have to stay prayed up, keeping our husbands before the Lord constantly. We are to defend the home and the marriage.  We even have to bind up demonic spirits over our marriage. Some things we can talk out but other things we must be pray out!  Here is a  reference for demonic spirit to bind over your marriage: 

http://www.demonbuster.com/marriage.html

·         Compromising:  Yes, there will be days when it’s not all about you!  The spirit of selfishness will doom your marriage straight to divorce court!

 

·         Not taking the marriage for granted:  The devil sure does seem to use this one as the years go by to attack the marriages.  The “oh where is he going” syndrome.  Yet the truth is he can go somewhere or be tempted. So listen when he says he doesn’t like something, take heed, not an attitude. In the long run, you’ll be glad you did.  This includes sound communication.

For a good reference, click to this website:

http://www.moodymanual.demonbuster.com/awauw.html

So remember women, there are a lot of behind the scenes work to being someone’s rib.  Take advantage of your single phase and use it as a time of preparation if your heart desires to be married. Stay encouraged!

 

Hems Down, Boobs Covered

Summer is coming and us women love getting our cuteness on, but be aware....

Hosea 2:13
And I will visit upon her the days of Baalim, wherein she burned incense to them, and she decked herself with her earrings and her jewels, and she went after her lovers, and forgat me, saith the Lord.
She put on her earrings and jewelry and went to look for her lovers. This shows that we as women have the power to seduce by what we put on! As women professing godliness, We are to be aware of how we are dressing!


1 Timothy2:9
In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety, not with braided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array.
The key word is modest! I looked up the word modest on an online dictionary website and it stated things like humble in appearance or dressing decent.

Let’s think: Does a guy think God when he sees you with a tongue ring? Does a guy think church girl when you are wearing your clothes so tight, he can see the details of your underwear? When you are showing some serious cleavage, do you really think he has his mind on the Lord while looking at you?


1Corninthians 6:15
Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them members of an harlot? God forbid.  Do we want to represent Christ in our dressing or show we represent members of a harlot?

Now, I’m all for dressing sexy for your mate when it’s husband and wife time. Nothing is wrong with that!
Yet Galatians 2:20 states I am crucified with Christ, nevertheless I live; yet not I but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me.
We are representing Christ outside the privacy of our home and church!!! One of the best compliments I got from a guy that wasn’t my husband was at 7-Eleven. He said he saw God all around me. I did not know this person at all. I was just going to get my Pepsi on but what he said just made my day. Yet, if I was dressed to seduce, it would've attracted a guy to say hey baby, yo shorty…see the difference.
So as women of God, especially as the warm weather approaches, let’s still get our cute on but in a godly manner! He will beautify the meek in salvation.  Let's represent!

Fornication, Why Not?

In a world where we have shows like 16 and Pregnant, Teen Mom, and the high percentage of African Americans having abortions, I feel compelled to discuss this topic in the hope it will help someone to make wiser choices.

James 1:14-15 says “But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust and enticed.  Then when lust hath conceive it brings forth sin and sin when it is finished, brings forth death."

Picture it…I was alone, had to pay for it myself, and in a room full of strangers making the most personal decision of my life. Laying on a cold table, just the doctor, nurse, and me. The sound of the vacuum brought tears to my eyes as I realized I was committing murder. The thumb I heard going into a bowl was my child, walking away in a stranger’s hands. Does that sound like sex before marriage was worth it to you?

I am writing this blog for women to make wiser choices with their bodies. But I am particularly concerned with young women within the church. Ask yourself, why do they say wait until you get married?



1. When you have sex with someone, you develop a soul tie. A soul tie is when you link your soul with someone that can have positive or negative results. So if he’s sweet, easy going type of guy, it can be positive. Yet if he is full of anger or lust, that can be negative. Genesis 34:2-3 shows this. “And when Shecehm son of Hamor the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he seized her, lay with her, and humbled, defiled, and disgraced her. But his soul longed for and clung to Dinah, daughter of Jacob, and he loved the girl and spoke comfortingly to her young heart’s wishes.” As you can see, the act doesn’t just stay in that bed, it goes with you! You pick up that person’s spirit. You can find yourself longing for the person, knowing they are not good for you.

2. You also place a curse on yourself…the curse of shedding innocent blood . Under that curse are demons like sadness, rage, envy, hate, rebellion, greed, cursing, oppression, worship of sex, and marriage breaking spirits. Hmmm…is that five minutes worth putting a curse on life?

3. Emotional scars. Yes, it may seem like the easier solution, yet it haunts you for the rest of your life. You will find yourself thinking about that child every year, around that time…how old he/she would have been, where your life would have been if you decided pro-choice, etc. That act never fully goes away.


4. Let’s not forget there are other things that can happen besides an unwanted pregnancy. There are Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs). Here is a link for information:   http://www.cdc.gov/std/

So I urge you to know your worth. Giving yourself to a man is the most precious gift a man can receive from you. It is an act of love that fornication turns into an act of lust. Check dude out…Is he really saved? Does he love the Lord? What is his potential? When you look into his eyes, do you see him in your future? How is he on the job front? Does he have an education beyond high school? Do you feel you can depend on him as a leader in the husband role? Does he uplift you or tear you down? Does he make you want to be a better woman, or make you want to settle out of fear of being alone? Don’t allow a man to be your main focus in life. The only man that should be in that role is Jesus Christ! Sex is wonderful when it’s in a Loving, Committed marriage. Speaking from experience I have learned that the hard way. The definition of Insanity is “Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result." Why allow a five minute act to cause so much damage. And let’s face it; teen boys are practicing on girls at that age seeing how many women they can get to perfect their act. Are you really enjoying the act? And to get pregnant or catch a STD, or worse, to ruin your life off of a trial run, is it really worth it?

Follow Christ’s way, which is the best way. He doesn’t tell you not to do something because he wants to hinder your fun. In reality, he is telling you so you can experience abundant life. There are many days I wish I just would’ve waited until I got married like the word said. Obedience is better than sacrifice! Yet I must add, due to free will, love yourself enough to protect yourself. And if a guy doesn’t love himself enough to want to protect himself, how much is he going to really love you. THINK!